Why I stopped oversharing my life on social media – and what changed when I did.

As a woman who spent many years oversharing my life on social media, especially during my season within the online coaching space, sharing the ins and outs plus the behind the scenes of my life, was an everyday ‘normal’.

It wasn’t until I started going through a profound transformation in my life that I first felt the nudge to pull away from sharing online.

Having spent over a decade on the hamster wheel within the self help world, initially I believed that the resistance that was arising within me to no longer continue sharing in this way, was because I was about to hit a new level of growth, however what I came to discover was…

We’ve confused vulnerability with oversharing and the soul is crying out for intimacy. 

As women we have this beautiful tenderness for our hearts and souls to be sensitive to the world around us.

The pressure that often comes with having to turn every day moments into content (especially as a business owner) and believing that allowing strangers eyes to wander into our lives and homes as a business strategy, to build trust & sales, can be the subtle yet very real door that opens us to experience worry, anxiety and fear.

There is power in privacy and the feminine thrives within a quiet life.

At our core we desire to live and feel safe and there’s many ways that the world normalises behaviour that goes against the essence of our feminine nature.

We crave intimacy with our hearts and with life itself.

There is a desire for the most intimate details of our homes, relationships and mundane moments to be kept sacred and out of sight from the eyes of the world. 

We’ve been made to believe that because we tolerate these ways of living it’s now considered ‘normal’.

In a world that has normalised oversharing as the foundation of how we live, connect and operate within the online space, let this be the turning point to return home to your innate knowing within.

5 practical steps I took to step away from sharing online that resulted with a new found inner peace…

• Installed the app ‘ one sec’ on my phone to implement firmer boundaries around how much time I was spending on social media (honestly it was a rude shock!)
  
  
• Hello joy and productivity! With the extra time that I uncovered from less phone time I began to use these moments for the things that I loved.
  
  Cooking, reading (sometimes 3 books at once haha!) and increased my daily step count which meant even more time in nature. I truly believe we were given the exact number of hours we need in one day and it’s up to us to utilise our time as best we can.
  

• Unsubscribed and ‘detoxed’ from watching the lives of strangers and influencers on the internet (this was harder than I would like to admit) The continual comparison day in and day out began to diminish and I fell deeper in love with my own life. Hallelujah!
  

• Instead of believing that I knew how people were in my life from an assumption of what they were sharing online, I began to pour more time and energy into spending time with people in the flesh.
  
  

• Upon meeting new people, instead of asking for their social profiles as a way to connect and talk, I’d ask for their phone number and set the foundation of the friendship away from the online space.
  
  

May this be the turning point where you return home to the quiet and sacred way of living.


Where the big and the small moments become moments for you, and you only.

Big love
Shell x